July 2012
13 posts
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friendly reminder to everyone:
[tw: rape]
toughfemme:
if you have to talk someone into agreeing to have sex with you
if you coerce someone into agreeing to have sex with you
if you wear someone down into agreeing to have sex with you
that is not fucking consent.
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basically never trust anyone who whines constantly...
missvoltairine:
speaking as someone who has cut people out of their life
it’s not an easy thing to do, and people don’t generally do that sort of thing without a good reason.
nobody is entitled to be a part of someone else’s life. Find anyone who expresses a sense of entitlement like that to be highly suspect, because this is evidence that they may not have very good boundaries and may be in...
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Required Reading: Why Does He Do That?
desliz:
“If I were asked to select one salient characteristic of my abusive clients, an aspect of their nature that stands out above all the others, I would choose this one: They feel profoundly justified.”
I picked up Lundy Bancroft’s Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men again the other night in order to quote a specific passage, but it occurred to me that it...
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[tw: gaslighting, emotional abuse, grooming]
So here is an event that happened between me and my ex-abuser.
We went to the grocery store to get stuff for lunch. He also got a couple things for himself and I got a couple things for myself, one of them being cereal. I told him I wanted to split the cost. So at the counter we split up the items: half the groceries plus his items, then I paid for half plus my items. We made the food together...
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Asian Americans Less Likely to Report Domestic... →
miswritten:
crankyskirt:
fascinasians:
Asian-American victims of domestic violence rarely seek help from police or health care providers – “an alarming trend” among the fastest-growing racial group in the United States, says a Michigan State University researcher.
While cultural barriers can discourage victims from seeking help, there also is a lack of culturally sensitive services...
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sexual abuse and doctors [tw: description of...
I was discussing questionable practices in the doctors office with a friend and realized doctors crossing a patients physical boundaries is common, yet I’ve never really heard anyone talk about it.
So, I’m going to talk about it.
When I was in high school, every time I saw my doctor he would check my heartbeat. And every time he checked my heartbeat he would put the stethoscope on my...
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bad-dominicana:
my body and existence
are not learning tools
or sounding boards
or target practice
you dont get to *learn* how to be decent via the harm you inflict on me and demand i remain here for you to *learn* some moreand claim i am the one who is lacking sympathy for not wanting to continue needlessly suffering for your *enlightenment*
abuser logic never recognizes peoples right to...
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Violent Threats and Harassment
charthebutcher:
tobitastic:
I just received a comment posted to my Butch Trans Women Panel video
“HOLY SHIT! KILL IT WITH FIRE!!! KILL THEM ALL WITH FIRE!!!”
I reported it, blocked the user, deleted the comment. It’s all become so routine. I realized this has become so common for me over the past year that I wasn’t even upset. Annoyed a bit, but not much more.
A couple years ago I...
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SURVIVING TODAY
modernistwitchery:
bookishboi:
SURVIVING TODAY
I operate a tumblr called Surviving Today. The tumblr is for survivors (like myself) of abuse/sexual assault/sexual abuse/etc. It’s a password-protected space for discussion and community among survivors. Sharing, Venting, Prose, Poetry, Pictures and essentially anything that shares or highlights an experience or incites discussion is welcome.
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exerpt from "femora and fury: on IPV and...
quixotess:
ourcatastrophe:
At every juncture, society is complicit in the abuse of disabled victims. For example, an abuser will isolate a victim of intimate partner violence. If that victim is wheelchair-bound, and very few venues in town are wheelchair-accessible, the abuser is not the only one isolating her: society has shut her out by relinquishing responsibility for accommodation.
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catheterqueen:
Clocking the hours I spent/spend
trying to figure out what the fuck was wrong with me
what I could have done differently
if I was abused
how I was abused
what abuse is
why it is abuse
why I was abused
researching abuse
venting about the abuse
being angry about the abuse
sad about the abuse
embarrassed about my abuse
writing about the abuse
unlearning the abuse
...
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